Pro-feminist male looking for insight into gender, sex, and sexuality with as few pretenses and assumptions as possible, I hope. If you're willing, help me understand.
Disclaimer: I'm a male in a long-term monogamous relationship with a woman. We have two young children, who are also male. I'm always open to parenting ideas that'll make them into better people.
Part of the reason that children are afraid of the dark may be that, in our entire evolutionary history up until just a moment ago, they never slept alone. Instead, they nestled safely, protected by an adult, usually Mum. In the enlightened West we stick them alone in a dark room, say goodnight, and have difficulty understanding why they’re sometimes upset. It makes good evolutionary sense for children to have fantasies of scary monsters. In a world stalked by lions & hyenas, such fantasies help prevent defenceless toddlers from wandering too far from their guardians. How can this safety mechanism be effective for a vigorous, curious young animal unless it delivers industrial strength terror? Those who are not afraid of monsters tend not to leave descendants. Eventually, I imagine, over the course of human evolution, almost all children become afraid of monsters.
My first never talked about being afraid of monsters at bed time, but we’ve just hit that in the last week with the toddler. :-/
We wouldn’t mind letting him sleep with us if all three of us didn’t sleep horribly for it - invariably, the kid ends up sideways or diagonal with someone getting kicked in the crotch and the other headbutted in the chest.
I don’t know what it is, but popping can be so moving
stop acting like women’s internalized misogyny is bad as men’s misogyny thanks so much
As soon as women stop acting like they are the only ones who feel they have to meet a certain physical standard
you definitely, certifiably 100% have no fucking clue what this post is about, why dont you back away from the subject of feminism and go back to making dynamite text posts like this one:
Some men push the button as far as saying that porn is actually ‘feminist’ because women make more money than men in the industry. To which I reply that men in porn are paid to orgasm, while women are paid to suffer, which is why they deserve and receive a higher monetary compensation. But money is a bad substitute for dignity and body integrity.
I am tired of men who, by wanting so hard to justify their porn use without acknowledging the harm done to women, over-rationalise some aspect of it while closing their eyes to the obvious. And when we ask them if they would like to be treated like the women in porn, they say ‘of course not, but that does not mean that those girls don’t, it is not because YOU won’t like these things to be done to your body that THEY do not like it’. Because ‘those girls’ are so different then us, regular human beings…
The fact is that women have been brainwashed to think that enduring pain is an integral part of their duty of performing femininity. Women harm their feet to walk in high heels. Women voluntarily submit themselves to painful surgeries to have bigger breast. They go through painful waxing procedures. Women are good women when they overcome their pain with a smile. And now, thanks to porn, girls are seeking advice on the internet about how to give deepthroated blowjobs without puking and how to make anal sex less painful. Men are never expected to do such things…
"men in porn are paid to orgasm, while women are paid to suffer" - and that is fucking crucial